Orgasm in Men and Women


Orgasm is the point at which all the tension and pleasure of sex is suddenly released in a series of involuntary muscular contractions that may be felt in the vagina, uterus, rectum and the penis. Male orgasm has a duration of 3 to 5 seconds, female orgasms last a little longer, 5 to 8 seconds. To achieve orgasm, erection or ejaculation is not required; orgasm, erection and ejaculation are separate, independent functions. Orgasm is a psychological fact, an exclusively energetic process, a rush of intensely pleasurable sensations and emotions that needs only a healthy and functional brain.

When women have an orgasm, parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are switched off and as they climax, an area that governs emotional control is also heavily deactivated. During orgasm, the cortex, the part of the brain governing conscious action, is not activated. The pleasure of sex is a great gift we receive as a human being, but it needs to be created with intelligence, responsibility and careful planning. When both sides understand that the brain is the biggest sex organ, they will be happier and the brain won’t be relaxed if you don’t practice safe sex. Your partner won’t be able to feel pleasures when she is worried about diseases or pregnancy.


About 15% to 20% of sex therapy cases involve women who have never had an orgasm, and there are probably many more who have not sought therapy. Many factors can influence a woman’s ability to have an orgasm such as:

  • Emotional

  • Physical

  • And Social Factors

All these play a strong role in determining whether or not a woman experiences an orgasm.

Physically, women usually need more stimulation than men to achieve orgasm. The clitoris is the centre of physical sexual arousal for most women. However, the clitoris is not located in a place that is particularly likely to be stimulated during vaginal intercourse, and it is difficult to get adequate stimulation from most positions. Practice and communication are important to find out what is most effective in leading to a woman’s orgasm, also, having a kind, caring, and experienced partner is certainly of benefit.

These days, every healthy woman should be able to have an orgasm; furthermore, the majority of women are capable of multiple orgasms, if they wish to have them. What happens in a woman’s body during a climax is very like what happens in men’s body when they ejaculate. A feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything blows in a great blast of ecstasy. This orgasmic period is characterized by surges of contractions in the sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds. (Note that some women do experience orgasms without contractions.) The major difference between male and female orgasm is, after the first climax, many women achieve orgasm again, often within a minute or two, but this is extremely rare in males, and only a few young women can achieve multiple orgasms, because it has to be learned, and with the help of a skilled lover, most women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms.

As you have your own taste in food, fashion, and sex, your lover has her own taste in what turns her on sexually. Unfortunately, many women have a very vague notion of what turns them on sexually or are only familiar with few things, and for this reason, men’s duty is to help the woman to discover as many things as possible and use this information to increase the sexual pleasures.

But in fact, men cannot give an orgasm like an aspirin tablet; they help women achieve one, if only they have the correct data to make the right things. You have to spend time with yourself to discover what gives you pleasure and share this info with your lover to make things happen. Working by yourself you can learn how to orgasm in new ways that will make it easier to accomplish with your lover. Two of the many ways for women to orgasm during intercourse are either via additional stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse, or finding a way to directly stimulate your g-spot.

These techniques can take time and effort to be learned and practised by your lover, but if you spend time investigating the possibilities by yourself, you’ll be better prepared for success. Many times, creating the same pleasures that they feel by themselves, is a problem to solve with their lover, and the only way is transferring the right data through a nice channel.

Avoiding any criticism, any offensive approach is highly important, and being very careful is a must! You may use a method of telling him you want to show what you do in private when you are thinking about him? Most men love to watch while you do a show and tell. You can even ask him to help by giving you additional stimulation.


Two major types of orgasms a woman can have, clitoral and vaginal orgasms. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren’t familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. And coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman’s clitoral area is nothing compared to cunnilingus, so manual stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse may be useful.


  • Sexual orgasm

  • Light body orgasm

  • Spirit body orgasm

  • Soul orgasm and

  • Mystical aspects.

Men and Women can have:

  • Micro orgasms
  • Energy orgasms
  • Breathe orgasms male and female
  • Whole-body orgasms
  • Heart orgasms
  • Men: orgasms with no ejaculation
  • Prostate orgasms
  • Women: clitoris orgasms
  • G spot orgasms,
  • Cervical orgasms
  • Women orgasms involving different types of ejaculation
  • Combination orgasms of several types
  • Vulva mega orgasms
  • Orgasms lasting hours and hours

Going beyond the pleasure of orgasms to a deep spiritual state of deep unbound less and suspension of breath, most men do not separate orgasm from ejaculation. You can learn to have male multiple orgasms with no ejaculation or a loss of energy. Exploring your sexual orgasmic potential is something that few of men do, but in my experience is very life-changing and profound.

Many women have a difficult time achieving orgasm. Current studies reveal that anywhere from 50% to 75% of women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse alone. Instead, they resort to faking orgasms or feel the need to do it now and then. Why is this so difficult, especially since most all women are capable of multiple orgasms? There are many reasons why women fake an orgasm, but the majority of women fake for three main reasons:

1 They love and care for their partner and do not want to hurt their feelings or make them feel inadequate;

2 They are embarrassed to tell their partner because they have already been faking for so long;

3 They genuinely enjoy the closeness but have a hard time communicating

their needs or do not want to appear needy or difficult.

In our society, orgasm plays a huge role in our sexual experiences. The most common reason, however, for faking orgasms is to avoid inflicting feelings of sexual inadequacy on their partner. To avoid these feelings, people, especially women, fake an orgasm. Talking about orgasm is very uncomfortable for most people and a general taboo to our society. As a result, many women are very unaware of the possibility of faking an orgasm, while other women cannot seem to distinguish the genuine orgasm from the fake orgasm. The disappointment and hurt, knowing their partner have faked an orgasm.


Some people can reach sexual satisfaction during sexual intercourse, without achieving an orgasm, and view the extra effort in attempting it as tedious. Some women can only reach orgasms through stimulation of the clitoris (clitoral orgasms), and not by penetration. Not all sexual positions provide access to the clitoris, thus preventing actual orgasms.

Some people are unable to have orgasms, a condition known as anorgasmia. One partner might be tired and would like to end the sexual act without offending their sexual partner. Two partners may begin the sexual act under the influence of alcohol or other drugs. The effect of these substances can sometimes cause people to be unaware of their choice in sexual partners if this effect wears off during sex, and one (or both) partners realize this, one might choose to fake an orgasm to avoid creating an embarrassing situation.

Many women who struggle with achieving orgasm may not feel that their body or their feelings of arousal are in their own control and lack a sense of ownership. Their body image may be so negative that they cannot feel good or feel comfortable about opening up sexually. Many women report that they are unhappy with how they look and are embarrassed to be seen or touched.

Unfortunately, because of the unrealistic body and appearance standards that our society overtly imposes on women, plus the social norms, women actually question whether or not they are in full control over their own body image. Women and their partners may have a hard time initiating arousal because she is unaware of how to become aroused. For women, their bodies can take up to thirty minutes of stimulation or arousal to have an orgasm. To the contrary, most men can achieve arousal to orgasm within three minutes.


* Inadequate stimulation

* Not enough lubrication

* Injury that has affected genital receptiveness

* Illness or medical problem

* Medication side effects

* Exhaustion

* Potential Psychological Issue:

* Stress/ anxiety

* Relationship problems

* Body image

* Depression

* Religious guilt associated with sex

* Performance anxiety

* Cultural beliefs

* Guilt associated with pleasure

If you are having trouble achieving orgasm, first try to pinpoint the issue by reviewing some of the above-mentioned causes. Then, take time to get to know your body. You can also get a Guaranteed Guide on How to Make an Orgasm <<Here>>. As a woman, these are your two best options for achieving orgasm. In fact, the clitoris has no other purpose than for sexual stimulation. Once you have a physical understanding, manual self-manipulation is the best step to understanding how to achieve orgasm.

Allowing orgasm to happen for the first time isn’t easy because oftentimes, women often describe the pressure and build up as having to pee. But it means you are right at that moment. The other side of that physical build-up is the orgasm. It’s like a long-distance runner hitting “the wall”. You have to mentally and physically get past it to reach that euphoria so many describe.

Once you’ve reached the orgasm, it will become easier each time thereafter. If you’ve finally reached that Big O, then keep a mental road map, because you will want to express this with your partner if he isn’t quite getting you aroused enough. Many partners find it sexy when their partner helps guide them to satisfaction. We learned, show and tell as children, so now is the time as an adult. There is something very wonderful in knowing you fulfilled the desire of another. So, take the time to be open with one another, because, in the long run, it’s so worth it.


To a certain extent, we have sex on the brain. In today’s world, so many publications are running sex stories. The orgasm in particular is a common topic of discussion. If you’re curious about the female orgasm vs male orgasm, then you are not alone. Although there are differences in the orgasm for men and women, physiologically they are very similar.

In general, an orgasm is rhythmic contractions of the muscles of the pelvic area, resulting in a discharge of sexual tension. This is true for female orgasm and male orgasm. So, the actual “what an orgasm is” remains the same for both sexes. The difference in female orgasm vs. male orgasm comes more from what causes the orgasm to originate, how easy it is brought on, and the ease with which another orgasm can be brought on after the first one. In men, the origination of the orgasm is deceptively straightforward.

Traditional wisdom says that men’s orgasm stems from stimulation to the penis. This can be accomplished through vaginal intercourse, most people believe that men must ejaculate to have an orgasm, but there is such a thing as a ‘dry orgasm’ for men. Conversely, men can ejaculate in the absence of an orgasm. Thus, the myth of the ejaculate equals orgasm in men is false. For some time, we’ve typically thought of men’s orgasm as so simple it barely rated discussion, but as of late we’re beginning to realize there is more complex than we thought. We are now aware that stimulation of the prostate can also result in an orgasm for men.

In females, an orgasm can result from stimulation of the clitoris, the G-spot, or the vaginal cavity, which we usually refer to as a deep spot, AFE, or A-spot orgasm. Clitoral stimulation to orgasm can occur through oral sex, manual stimulation, stimulation using a vibrator or other implement, or less frequently, through contact during intercourse. This is the most common type of orgasm for women.

In fact, 70% of women report this is the only originating location for orgasm. The G-spot can be stimulated manually, using a vibrator or implement, or less frequently through intercourse. The location of the G-spot makes stimulation through intercourse very challenging. The fingers or other implements are the most efficacious means of reaching this erogenous zone. The deep spot/A-spot/AFE can be reached best through orgasm, but men who are less endowed may find this challenging.

In general, it is easier to bring on an orgasm in male than female. In fact, 90% of men always orgasm during intercourse. Only 25% of women report the same. In fact, there are 30% of women who have never had an orgasm, through intercourse or otherwise (including masturbation). Thus, the female orgasm has more mystique surrounding it than the male orgasm, which is considered much simpler to produce. Many people have gone so far as to say finding a man who is a good lover as defined by the ability to consistently bring his female partners to orgasm is rarer than finding a woman who is a good lover. And, further, that the definition of a woman being a good lover is more complicated than simply ensuring her partner has an orgasm each time they have sex.

Another common myth in the female orgasm vs. male orgasm centres upon the ease with which another orgasm can be brought on after the first one. In laymen’s terms, we call this the multiple orgasms. The myth is that only females can have multiple orgasms, but new research suggests otherwise. Typically, when men orgasm, they experience what is called a refractory period. This is a period of time during which no matter how much they might desire to, sex is impossible. The body needs to recover from the previous sexual release.

Traditionally, people have believed that men have one orgasm, then must wait out the refractory period which it is believed grows longer as one age before another attempt at orgasm can be made. We are now learning that many men can in fact have multiple orgasms. This is especially true in men who experience dry orgasm. But men who began sexual contact (including masturbating) before reaching puberty often report both the dry orgasm and the ability to orgasm multiple times consecutively.


Relationship Advice


There are different types of Relationships but here we are focusing on Relationships between male and female, we are talking about love, sex and intimacy relationship, which lead to other things like being together for a whole day at a special place they choose to be by the two bonding souls be it lovers or couples, this kind of relationship also leads to sex or intimacy at the run end. We all had been there once or so many times walk up to the girl of your dreams and you are ready to open your mouth and knock her over with your wit and a great sense of humour but instead, there’s nothing. Your mind is completely blank. She thinks you are an idiot and you lose your chance forever.

Think and be prepared, come up with something to get the conversation going before you approach, use your eyes, think of something about her that you think she’d like to talk about?



Don’t use a pre-packaged pick-up line just like you see on TV, hear from your friends or read on the internet because these pick-up lines don’t work. What looks hilarious and witty on the screen will sound corny and desperate, very few original lines out there and unless she’s very young, most probably she will have heard them all before. Be sure to have something else to bring up in the back of your mind like complimenting something special about her and ask an open question. If she has a special outfit like a fancy pair of shoes don’t tell her “Hi, I really like that T-shirt”. It’s way too easy for her to say thanks, and then for both of you to stand there looking at each other like a couple of dummies. Instead, ask her where she got that great T-shirt or what the special occasion is that has her looking so great? Giving her your opinion of her bag, even if it is positive is a big mistake.

    • *Avoid a yes/no question. Make sure her/his answer will lead to a further question and you’ll be set.


    • *Be a listener. It’s a great idea to start up a natural conversation about a topic you’re both interested in, or she is interested in. Humans like to talk about themselves so use this to your advantage.


    • *Concentrate on what she’s/he’s saying and ask more questions about what she/he has mentioned.


    • *Don’t talk too much about yourself, instead get her to tell you about herself. It’s amazing what our brains do in these situations, if we are prompted to discuss our own interests, we often think the other person is very engaging. She will get the impression that you are caring and compassionate and somebody she’d like to talk to again.


If you plan, you would never face that awful feeling of having nothing to say. Work out what she’d like to talk about and get to it. It’s the easiest way so now you’ll never be left thinking about how to start a conversation with a girl again. So many people in a relationship are lacking the most important parts to making that relationship work, many people are in relationships with the wrong people because they are scared. They don’t want to be alone so they would rather be in a bad relationship than none at all. That is the worst thing you can do. By staying in a bad relationship, you are stopping yourself from finding a great relationship. You have closed yourself off from any possibilities of meeting a partner and having the most amazing, loving relationship the one you have been always dreaming of having.



  • Friendship: This is the best foundation for a relationship. If you have a solid true friendship with your partner then you are ahead of 90% of all relationships. In order to love one another and spend every day with this person, you must truly like each other or the relationship is doomed from the start.


  • Communication: This is the number one most important thing in a relationship (any relationship). If there is no communication between people than any issues that they have just get buried deep down and only end up making things worse. If you can’t trust your partner enough to talk openly with them, then what kind of relationship do you have? But just because it is hard doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t do it. Don’t be afraid. Most of the time people are afraid that their relationship will end if they say something. I can tell you that if you don’t say anything your relationship may end.


  • Compatibility: You must enjoy doing the same things together. I am not saying that you have to like all the same things, but you need to have some things in common. I know at the beginning of a relationship you have an attraction to each other and are more interested in sex than anything else. The attraction will not go away but it does get toned down and when that happens if you don’t have anything in common with your partner and have nothing that you enjoy doing with each other the relationship will fail.

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Is it difficult to build love in a relationship? Building love in a relationship can be very difficult because you both have to take some certain decisions that could be hard to take but it can be exciting in the long run. A relationship is a very difficult practice base on the fact that two people of different personality are in the relationship and in one way or the other; they will definitely hurt each other sometimes.

  • Relationship Break Heart
  • Relationship Hurt
  • Relationship Disappointment

But if you and your partner can build love gradually you will definitely experience a successful relationship. In the process of building love in your relationship, you and your partner must respect the word ‘OPENNESS’. All that this has to do with a love relationship is, being open in your relationship is a simple way of building love in your relationship. This implies to both of you to tell each other everything about each other. The only thing that can set you free is truth. This also applies to people who are also in a relationship or married.

Relationship journey is a very difficult one but if couples can bring out time and study each other, they will definitely enjoy the journey. True love is the only difficulty journey worth taking in this our world. In this era of the world, where things are becoming very difficult, one needs true love to drive well. It becomes very necessary for couples to have an open mind to share everything about their lives.



  1. Give your man some space when he needs it, he shouldn’t have to feel bad if he needs some alone time whether for going out with friends or communicating with other women at other places like the workplace.
  2. Insecurity and jealousy can ruin a relationship as quick as a relationship starts.
  3. Pressure on him is pressure on a relationship, Men have to feel like they are in control of a situation. If you pressurize him or force him to do or act in a certain way, he will lose patience and react in an alien way.
  4. Take things easy, it’s not a race.
  5. Women love to show their partner how they feel about them whether verbally or physically. Men love this sort of attention but only in moderation, too much and he will go crazy.
  6. If it makes it easier to see a man as a baby that throws a temper tantrum and throws a dummy out the pram. Of course, this doesn’t mean he is free of his responsibilities, but you will know when you are applying a bit too much pressure on him. Ease upon him.
  7. Be independent.
  8. Being an independent woman is not just great for a relationship but good for personally. You never know what life can hand you so be your own woman to prevent any surprises that could possibly pop up in future.
  9. Although you and your partner have committed to each other, this doesn’t mean that you are attached at the hip. Let him do the things he enjoys whilst you do the things that interest you.



How do you define love or the experience of it? Love demands nothing of us because it is an empty vessel to be filled. This is the analogy for life itself, where love is never wasted but recirculated. Is love unconditional for you? Or does it come with requirements? What happens when those requirements are not met, do you withhold your love for another? Is it possible to withhold the essence of who we are? How can we stop water flowing in a river? You might say: build a damn.

However, if the dam is not strong enough, the pressure of the water will find its way through or around it. You’ve no doubt seen tsunamis on TV where entire villages are engulfed by water. Water is a powerful metaphor for love because it can enrich a person’s life, yet it can also be destructive if it comes with conditions.

What does love offer us in return? Is it intimacy with ourselves or knowing others better? Love is like the Sun that gives of its energy and asks nothing in return because it is self-sustaining. The more we give love, the more of it we have. What happens when love is not reciprocated or the other person ceases to identify with love? If love is not returned, it does not diminish the other person’s capacity to give or receive it. The Sun goes down every evening and there is darkness for twelve hours. Yet, with the break of dawn, it re-emerges bringing energy to sustain life once more. It is a cycle sewn into the fabric of life and so it is with love.



When another person stops loving us, it does not mean we are unlovable. For you cannot stop the flow, it will naturally find expression in another form. Love is the antidote to fear, hatred and anger. It is the one true constant in our lives that is bestowed upon us from conception. We are born into love and leave this life knowing we will continue to love in the lifetimes that follow.

The question is: have you dared to fully express love in this life? Have you given love freely and unconditionally? We ought to be like a sponge filled with water, totally wrung out when our time comes. We ought to fill our hearts with love and not withhold it for fear it won’t be reciprocated. Because every time we engage in love, it is magnified within every cell of our body. The more we give of ourselves, the more love expands within our hearts. Love needn’t be something expressed between two people but can reveal itself through our life’s purpose, our hobbies and our attitude. If you seek more love in your life, let go of the barriers that keep you safe from expressing it. See if you can find the place within you bursting with love and direct it towards something or someone. Love is like a bank account that compounds interest with each deposit made.

Because if we truly want to know what it means to love, we must first experience it unreservedly while we have the chance. Do you want to lead a remarkable life? Are you committed to taking action despite your fears and doubts? If so, click <<Here>> right now, and start your amazing journey of greatness today!



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The act of coming together by a male and female or man and woman using their private parts (Penis and Vagina), where the man inserts his penis into the woman vagina by thrusting to have pleasure for both parties. Vaginal sexual intercourse, also called coitus, is the human form of copulation. While its natural purpose and result is a reproduction, it is often performed entirely for pleasure and/or as an expression of love and emotional intimacy.

Right from our childhood’s days, we have been taught many things, but sex is the least taught of all. Due to lack of proper orientation towards the subject, it has been kept in the dark valleys of secrets not discussed and, like all things kept in such secrecy, it is bound to explode. Sex is a vertical force that has the ability to either populate the world or destroy it. On this subject, reason has long been slain and logic dumped in the maximum-security prisons. The subject of sex is still shrouded in taboos and sacrilege that when it seeks to break free, it becomes vulgar.


When sex becomes a taboo, it becomes irresistibly attractive. Suppress sex and you are opening the doors of this sacred food to vulgarity and pornography of all sorts. The more it lives in darkness, the more distorted and eviler it becomes. And when our source becomes evil, we face the danger of extreme worthlessness in the communication process constitutes a break in relationships.



On the other hand, uncontrolled sex results in the desecration of the holy ritual sex and succeeds in making it a meaningless act performed for its own sake. This has dangerously created vacuum yet to fill in many lives. Unrestrained sex unfettered has led to pornography and, if no proper guidance is made available, will destroy the sacredness of our source of creation.



Sex is the source of energy of life and creation. There is no doubt that sex is very pleasurable. The point here is not to judge sexual preferences, but to analyze to what extent it can be harmful when it is overly performed. An addiction to sex can be as deteriorating as alcoholism or drug addiction.


Because the driving force has no other purpose than mere pleasure or escapism. Sex becomes truly meaningful when love is bonded to that sacred act. Males tend to experiment sexual pleasure with any woman if the time and environment are adequate, whereas women, in their vast majority, need to feel an honest attraction and experiment true feelings before they commit themselves to have intercourse. Moreover, the only thing you can do for her is to support her emotionally and try to get her engaged in a constructive activity. Never force her. She must be persuaded, not fooled. She has to take onto that behaviour on her own otherwise, she will fail miserably over and over again.


However, this encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. To be able to truly love and be loved, you have to begin by accepting yourself, by loving yourself, by considering yourself worthy of all the good things, this is a universal truth. What makes you lose or maintain that right? Choice. When you choose, you must accept the consequences and responsibilities of your choice. Blaming others is a comfortable position to avoid facing your own mistakes.

You can conclude that:

  • Love without sex is possible and true.
  • Sex without love is more commonplace than people may think.
  • There is a difference between having sex and making love.
  • When you feel heartbroken or have gotten hurt, is your partner to blame, or was your choice in a hurry which got you into trouble?
  • All relationships face risks, just like businesses, travels, experiments. If you keep yourself inside of your “protective bubble”, nothing will ever happen. Good or bad, and you will not grow as a human being.
  • To find true love, learn to let things flow. If you chase it, you’ll never find the real thing.

Enjoy the experiences as they come. Disregard them if they seem harmful, otherwise, just let them take their natural course.

  • Learn to be detached. Your partner is an individual. It isn’t your property! If you are overly possessive, you will not last enough to get to know the person. Apart from avoiding a potential venereal disease or other sexually related infections, do not let the spur of the moment cloud your judgment, you may regret it later. Do you want love, honest and loving intercourse, true friendship, companionship? Give first! Give without second intentions and I promise you shall be rewarded with equal or much better feelings than the ones you have freely and spontaneously given away.


Sex is when you simply succumb to your worldly desires. You feel sexually attracted to someone you would hardly know and would actually do something about it by flirting with that someone, which, in turn, will take you both to the same bed. In this case, love has absolutely nothing to do with it. It is like you just scratched an itch, and then the both of you will get on with your separate lives. A perfect example of this is one-night stands, which are absolutely meaningless, except that they feed your lust. Making love is when both parties really put their heart and soul in their lovemaking, being completely honest with each other in the process. It is not selfish, since you would want your partner to feel pleasure as well as yourself, as compared to simply having sex because, with sex, you would prioritize your own sexual pleasure.

Love involves affinity, while sex only involves lust, which in turn is based solely on desire. Sex is something that does not often slump real feelings, real relationship or even a committed. There are few peoples who seek enjoyment from one-night stands. Often many have a friend with benefits, there are never any real or deep feelings; it’s only about the enjoyment of the act. Usually, when people only search to have sex, there’s very little opposite play and intimacy afterwards, the cuddling and holding of one another, well that doesn’t happen often.

Many people are happy with having sex only for pleasure, never caring for the emotional circumstance of being in love. Often some will lope partner to partner because that’s all they’re searching that’s the instant rush and release in the sex’s pleasure.


This explains rising divorce rates from shorter courtships before marriage. Relationships are shorter and less lead to marriage in recent years because sex has taken over intellectual emotional bonding. Sex does not facilitate love, contrary to current popular belief. Intimacy is the sex of a couple in love, making love, but sex between anyone else has no value; it’s worthless. Sex does not facilitate love. Sex works as a quick high for relationships but drags along the dangerous side effects and an increased need to have sex, as the emotional development takes secondary importance.

Sex fogs mental clarity but when relationships aren’t based on sex, then feelings and mental compatibility stand centre stage. When intimacy never overshadows heartfelt feelings, lasting love has a far higher chance of survival. In love, sex is called intimacy and romance, that works with the couple to connect even more emotionally in new ways and that’s why it was initially hailed as a marital reward.

Sex was meant for marriage because the emotions before the wedding were highly evolved and mature enough to handle ever after but in today’s society those emotions never matured nearly as long as they should have and instead lust or pseudo-love became prominent and evidently confusing the general population. Sex does not facilitate love as current generations think. So also, this site is not encouraging illegal sex its content is for legal use for couples and dummies for a long-lasting relationship that would lead to marriage.


Some General Differences Between Male and Female Egos:

Men are attracted by physical characteristics and women are attracted by success indicators. Men are less emotionally involved when it comes to sex than women are. Women cannot detach their hearts when they make love with someone. Men need a chase in order to make long-term commitments. Women are selective about their partners and start new relationships with long-term commitment in mind. These concepts have been related to the beginning of the homo-sapient species when men most likely selected mates based on their physical ability to bear children and women selected mates based on their strength and ability to provide food and shelter.


This is an area of great problems in many lives. It is responsible for many depression, psychotic problems and failures. Sexual injuries are deep because they are forbidden from being discussed. There are some areas of your sex life you fear to discuss for the fear that others will think you are vulgar, so you keep your pains to yourself. Another area of problems with sex and relationships are the decisions we make about these two forces. Must all male and female relationships end with sex?

Should sex with any person mean marriage or commitment? Sex is for two mature and responsible persons. The words here are mature and responsible. When you decide that sex is equal to marriage, every sex that does not end in marriage is open to limitless pain. Sex is spiritual and must be understood as the energizing of our spirituality and the sharing of our creative energies. You must then have sex with just the person who attracts and stimulates in you the deepest of respect, sense of responsibility, spirituality and love as in couples.

When sex is understood for what it is, as a divine and spiritual energy, it will never become a playing. No one will throw his or her jewels to the swine, your decisions come from your belief system, and your belief system designs and creates your world. It is, therefore, important that you can yourself and your belief systems. In a relationship, the woman traditionally controls the sex and the man controls the money. In the ideal holy relationship, there are no controls but simple responsibilities based on each person’s capabilities. In lovemaking, there are no losers each partner is a winner. But in sex making, each partner is a loser.