WHAT IS ORGASM?
Orgasm is the point at which all the tension and pleasure of sex is suddenly released in a series of involuntary muscular contractions that may be felt in the vagina, uterus, rectum and the penis. Male orgasm has a duration of 3 to 5 seconds, female orgasms last a little longer, 5 to 8 seconds. To achieve orgasm, erection or ejaculation is not required; orgasm, erection and ejaculation are separate, independent functions. Orgasm is a psychological fact, an exclusively energetic process, a rush of intensely pleasurable sensations and emotions that needs only a healthy and functional brain.
When women have an orgasm, parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are switched off and as they climax, an area that governs emotional control is also heavily deactivated. During orgasm, the cortex, the part of the brain governing conscious action, is not activated. The pleasure of sex is a great gift we receive as a human being, but it needs to be created with intelligence, responsibility and careful planning. When both sides understand that the brain is the biggest sex organ, they will be happier and the brain won’t be relaxed if you don’t practice safe sex. Your partner won’t be able to feel pleasures when she is worried about diseases or pregnancy.
IS ORGASM DIFFICULT?
About 15% to 20% of sex therapy cases involve women who have never had an orgasm, and there are probably many more who have not sought therapy. Many factors can influence a woman’s ability to have an orgasm such as:
And Social Factors
All these play a strong role in determining whether or not a woman experiences an orgasm.
Physically, women usually need more stimulation than men to achieve orgasm. The clitoris is the centre of physical sexual arousal for most women. However, the clitoris is not located in a place that is particularly likely to be stimulated during vaginal intercourse, and it is difficult to get adequate stimulation from most positions. Practice and communication are important to find out what is most effective in leading to a woman’s orgasm, also, having a kind, caring, and experienced partner is certainly of benefit.
These days, every healthy woman should be able to have an orgasm; furthermore, the majority of women are capable of multiple orgasms, if they wish to have them. What happens in a woman’s body during a climax is very like what happens in men’s body when they ejaculate. A feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything blows in a great blast of ecstasy. This orgasmic period is characterized by surges of contractions in the sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds. (Note that some women do experience orgasms without contractions.) The major difference between male and female orgasm is, after the first climax, many women achieve orgasm again, often within a minute or two, but this is extremely rare in males, and only a few young women can achieve multiple orgasms, because it has to be learned, and with the help of a skilled lover, most women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms.
As you have your own taste in food, fashion, and sex, your lover has her own taste in what turns her on sexually. Unfortunately, many women have a very vague notion of what turns them on sexually or are only familiar with few things, and for this reason, men’s duty is to help the woman to discover as many things as possible and use this information to increase the sexual pleasures.
But in fact, men cannot give an orgasm like an aspirin tablet; they help women achieve one, if only they have the correct data to make the right things. You have to spend time with yourself to discover what gives you pleasure and share this info with your lover to make things happen. Working by yourself you can learn how to orgasm in new ways that will make it easier to accomplish with your lover. Two of the many ways for women to orgasm during intercourse are either via additional stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse, or finding a way to directly stimulate your g-spot.
These techniques can take time and effort to be learned and practised by your lover, but if you spend time investigating the possibilities by yourself, you’ll be better prepared for success. Many times, creating the same pleasures that they feel by themselves, is a problem to solve with their lover, and the only way is transferring the right data through a nice channel.
Avoiding any criticism, any offensive approach is highly important, and being very careful is a must! You may use a method of telling him you want to show what you do in private when you are thinking about him? Most men love to watch while you do a show and tell. You can even ask him to help by giving you additional stimulation.
Two major types of orgasms a woman can have, clitoral and vaginal orgasms. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren’t familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. And coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman’s clitoral area is nothing compared to cunnilingus, so manual stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse may be useful.
FIVE (5) MAIN TYPES OF ORGASMS ARE
Light body orgasm
Spirit body orgasm
Soul orgasm and
Men and Women can have:
- Micro orgasms
- Energy orgasms
- Breathe orgasms male and female
- Whole-body orgasms
- Heart orgasms
- Men: orgasms with no ejaculation
- Prostate orgasms
- Women: clitoris orgasms
- G spot orgasms,
- Cervical orgasms
- Women orgasms involving different types of ejaculation
- Combination orgasms of several types
- Vulva mega orgasms
- Orgasms lasting hours and hours
Going beyond the pleasure of orgasms to a deep spiritual state of deep unbound less and suspension of breath, most men do not separate orgasm from ejaculation. You can learn to have male multiple orgasms with no ejaculation or a loss of energy. Exploring your sexual orgasmic potential is something that few of men do, but in my experience is very life-changing and profound.
Many women have a difficult time achieving orgasm. Current studies reveal that anywhere from 50% to 75% of women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse alone. Instead, they resort to faking orgasms or feel the need to do it now and then. Why is this so difficult, especially since most all women are capable of multiple orgasms? There are many reasons why women fake an orgasm, but the majority of women fake for three main reasons:
1 They love and care for their partner and do not want to hurt their feelings or make them feel inadequate;
2 They are embarrassed to tell their partner because they have already been faking for so long;
3 They genuinely enjoy the closeness but have a hard time communicating
their needs or do not want to appear needy or difficult.
In our society, orgasm plays a huge role in our sexual experiences. The most common reason, however, for faking orgasms is to avoid inflicting feelings of sexual inadequacy on their partner. To avoid these feelings, people, especially women, fake an orgasm. Talking about orgasm is very uncomfortable for most people and a general taboo to our society. As a result, many women are very unaware of the possibility of faking an orgasm, while other women cannot seem to distinguish the genuine orgasm from the fake orgasm. The disappointment and hurt, knowing their partner have faked an orgasm.
Some people can reach sexual satisfaction during sexual intercourse, without achieving an orgasm, and view the extra effort in attempting it as tedious. Some women can only reach orgasms through stimulation of the clitoris (clitoral orgasms), and not by penetration. Not all sexual positions provide access to the clitoris, thus preventing actual orgasms.
Some people are unable to have orgasms, a condition known as anorgasmia. One partner might be tired and would like to end the sexual act without offending their sexual partner. Two partners may begin the sexual act under the influence of alcohol or other drugs. The effect of these substances can sometimes cause people to be unaware of their choice in sexual partners if this effect wears off during sex, and one (or both) partners realize this, one might choose to fake an orgasm to avoid creating an embarrassing situation.
Many women who struggle with achieving orgasm may not feel that their body or their feelings of arousal are in their own control and lack a sense of ownership. Their body image may be so negative that they cannot feel good or feel comfortable about opening up sexually. Many women report that they are unhappy with how they look and are embarrassed to be seen or touched.
Unfortunately, because of the unrealistic body and appearance standards that our society overtly imposes on women, plus the social norms, women actually question whether or not they are in full control over their own body image. Women and their partners may have a hard time initiating arousal because she is unaware of how to become aroused. For women, their bodies can take up to thirty minutes of stimulation or arousal to have an orgasm. To the contrary, most men can achieve arousal to orgasm within three minutes.
OTHER ISSUES TO CONSIDER FOR POTENTIAL PHYSICAL PROBLEM:
* Inadequate stimulation
* Not enough lubrication
* Injury that has affected genital receptiveness
* Illness or medical problem
* Medication side effects
* Potential Psychological Issue:
* Stress/ anxiety
* Relationship problems
* Body image
* Religious guilt associated with sex
* Performance anxiety
* Cultural beliefs
* Guilt associated with pleasure
If you are having trouble achieving orgasm, first try to pinpoint the issue by reviewing some of the above-mentioned causes. Then, take time to get to know your body. You can also get a Guaranteed Guide on How to Make an Orgasm <<Here>>. As a woman, these are your two best options for achieving orgasm. In fact, the clitoris has no other purpose than for sexual stimulation. Once you have a physical understanding, manual self-manipulation is the best step to understanding how to achieve orgasm.
Allowing orgasm to happen for the first time isn’t easy because oftentimes, women often describe the pressure and build up as having to pee. But it means you are right at that moment. The other side of that physical build-up is the orgasm. It’s like a long-distance runner hitting “the wall”. You have to mentally and physically get past it to reach that euphoria so many describe.
Once you’ve reached the orgasm, it will become easier each time thereafter. If you’ve finally reached that Big O, then keep a mental road map, because you will want to express this with your partner if he isn’t quite getting you aroused enough. Many partners find it sexy when their partner helps guide them to satisfaction. We learned, show and tell as children, so now is the time as an adult. There is something very wonderful in knowing you fulfilled the desire of another. So, take the time to be open with one another, because, in the long run, it’s so worth it.
ARE MEN AND WOMEN ORGASMS THE SAME?
To a certain extent, we have sex on the brain. In today’s world, so many publications are running sex stories. The orgasm in particular is a common topic of discussion. If you’re curious about the female orgasm vs male orgasm, then you are not alone. Although there are differences in the orgasm for men and women, physiologically they are very similar.
In general, an orgasm is rhythmic contractions of the muscles of the pelvic area, resulting in a discharge of sexual tension. This is true for female orgasm and male orgasm. So, the actual “what an orgasm is” remains the same for both sexes. The difference in female orgasm vs. male orgasm comes more from what causes the orgasm to originate, how easy it is brought on, and the ease with which another orgasm can be brought on after the first one. In men, the origination of the orgasm is deceptively straightforward.
Traditional wisdom says that men’s orgasm stems from stimulation to the penis. This can be accomplished through vaginal intercourse, most people believe that men must ejaculate to have an orgasm, but there is such a thing as a ‘dry orgasm’ for men. Conversely, men can ejaculate in the absence of an orgasm. Thus, the myth of the ejaculate equals orgasm in men is false. For some time, we’ve typically thought of men’s orgasm as so simple it barely rated discussion, but as of late we’re beginning to realize there is more complex than we thought. We are now aware that stimulation of the prostate can also result in an orgasm for men.
In females, an orgasm can result from stimulation of the clitoris, the G-spot, or the vaginal cavity, which we usually refer to as a deep spot, AFE, or A-spot orgasm. Clitoral stimulation to orgasm can occur through oral sex, manual stimulation, stimulation using a vibrator or other implement, or less frequently, through contact during intercourse. This is the most common type of orgasm for women.
In fact, 70% of women report this is the only originating location for orgasm. The G-spot can be stimulated manually, using a vibrator or implement, or less frequently through intercourse. The location of the G-spot makes stimulation through intercourse very challenging. The fingers or other implements are the most efficacious means of reaching this erogenous zone. The deep spot/A-spot/AFE can be reached best through orgasm, but men who are less endowed may find this challenging.
In general, it is easier to bring on an orgasm in male than female. In fact, 90% of men always orgasm during intercourse. Only 25% of women report the same. In fact, there are 30% of women who have never had an orgasm, through intercourse or otherwise (including masturbation). Thus, the female orgasm has more mystique surrounding it than the male orgasm, which is considered much simpler to produce. Many people have gone so far as to say finding a man who is a good lover as defined by the ability to consistently bring his female partners to orgasm is rarer than finding a woman who is a good lover. And, further, that the definition of a woman being a good lover is more complicated than simply ensuring her partner has an orgasm each time they have sex.
Another common myth in the female orgasm vs. male orgasm centres upon the ease with which another orgasm can be brought on after the first one. In laymen’s terms, we call this the multiple orgasms. The myth is that only females can have multiple orgasms, but new research suggests otherwise. Typically, when men orgasm, they experience what is called a refractory period. This is a period of time during which no matter how much they might desire to, sex is impossible. The body needs to recover from the previous sexual release.
Traditionally, people have believed that men have one orgasm, then must wait out the refractory period which it is believed grows longer as one age before another attempt at orgasm can be made. We are now learning that many men can in fact have multiple orgasms. This is especially true in men who experience dry orgasm. But men who began sexual contact (including masturbating) before reaching puberty often report both the dry orgasm and the ability to orgasm multiple times consecutively.